Mothers (at least mine), are the most frustrating things on the planet. I asked her a month
ago if she was going to come down to my house to actually see
the damn thing (she's seen it maybe twice in the 5 years I've had it) and all the stuff we've done to the house and for once not have us do all the traveling (it's an hour tops to our place) and I get told on that day "yes, I'll do my best to go on the road with Denis." (that's my mom's s/o)
So fine, my hubby offered to go and get her on the Friday night (which would be Oct. 9th) and bring her home the evening of Oct. 10th and she had said yes.SO
I call her this Friday to confirm that everything is still on for Alex's 2nd birthday on the Saturday and she says "I'm not going there on a Saturday, you said Sunday, why did you change it?" I told her it never changed, his family has had Thanksgiving dinner all the time on the Sunday since I've known them (which is 7 years) so I never would have said Sunday. Hell, my sister was right there when I said the date and when she called me on the Friday she said "are we still on for Saturday?" So yeah...I said Saturday but I get told I suddenly changed the date on her.
So anyway, she refuses saying that I told her Sunday when it was always Saturday and that she does not want to drive into the city on a Saturday saying that it's too busy. Given that it's a holiday, people will be at their relatives and won't be on the road, to which she said that it will be busy and she knows it. Nevermind the fact that she lives in a small little sleepy town and never comes into this town (and it's not busy on a holiday Saturday like this one) so how would she know.
Then I reminded her that Bobby was going to go and pick her up, drive her in and drop her off the next day and she had agreed to it. So now
she's saying no, that she doesn't want anyone to go and get her and she'll see Alex for his b-day whenever we decide to go and see her. Nevermind the fact that we've been down there about 7-8 times this year and she says yes to coming for his b-day then makes up excuses to not come.
So now I have my mother refusing to come down even if it's us driving to go and get her and my hubby saying that he's not going there anymore if she won't even make an effort to come down here since all she does is make up excuses. Once a year won't kill you; hell, the last time she was here was to help me after I first had my son and even then she almost refused to come down and help me. And it's not about her age; she's 66 fine, her s/o is about 60 or so, but hubby's grandparents are in their 80's and they drive the same distance into the city (the more busy part across town) at the very least once a month to visit my hubby's parents.
Someone (actually a few someones) said she should see someone and get some help since she never wants to go out of her house and do
anything. Which to a point is true, but then again it isn't; she'll take the bus that comes to the casino near where I live or go with her s/o to a town a few hours away to sight-see, but she doesn't want to visit her own family. "I spent my time visiting others (her aunts, my dad's family...not her kids!), now if any of you want to see me, you come to me. I'm not moving for any of you."
Yet she'll drive up into the mountains with bad visibility and horrible roads to my sister's house when we go to visit but heaven forbid we suggest visiting the rest of her children that live down the road that has nice paved roads and traffic lights all the way there.
I really do give up; if she cares that little of coming to see us, I'm beginning to wonder why I should bother to make an effort. I'll make as much effort to see her as she does to see me...let's see what she says. But then again, this is the same person that 9.9 times out of 10 won't call to see how you're doing and waits for you to do it. Only time she'll call is if she sends a letter to my house for my brother that goes to her address to know what it is...and she asks me...then gets upset when I don't ask what the letter is about, nevermind the fact that the damn thing isn't my business to begin with!